The first girl I ever loved. February 10, 1986

 

  

I recall her handing me my birthday present over the back yard fence that birthday when I was seven and forced to get my first holy communion by myself because the week before I had caught measles when the rest of my class at St. Brendan’s got theirs.

I wore my white suit and posed for pictures on the back porch when she – a few years younger than I was – called to me from her backyard to tell me she had a present for me.

Her family had moved into the house next door about a year before I was born, though they were the only neighbors I ever knew, and I assumed they had been there forever, leaving for South Jersey during the Summer of Love after their patriarch, Bill the telephone installer, passed away, she vanishing from my life though I continued to think of her each time I returned to the old house, even later, even after the remnants of my own family fled for South Jersey, too, and strangers occupied both houses – the house next door to my old house would always be hers, as I remembered those warm summer days when she sat out on her front stairs giggling at me, too young to know better, and later when we both got older, too wise to giggle or look at me again.

She hated me for becoming a hippie, after I found out how easy it was go board the bus for New York in front of my house, wandering through both the East and West Villages, looking for something I couldn’t find in that working class neighborhood, while she followed the footsteps of her parents, the straight and narrow path that led in exactly the opposite direction as my crooked one.

In-between that gift and her leaving, my then-best-friend fell in love with her, too, and she hated him, and because she hated him and he was my friend, she came to hate me, too, forcing me to choose between them, when I already knew it was too late to choose – the girl who would not look me in the eye when the moving van came, when their cars pulled away, leaving me standing in front of their empty house, feeling the same way I did all those years earlier, when I walked up the long aisle alone in my white suit to get my communion, her shrill voice still echoing from my back yard, saying “I love you,” when in the haze of car exhaust, she wouldn’t even look back at me in the rearview mirror.

 

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